Living with In-Laws

Before I go further, let me clarify that all that is written here is purely based on my thoughts. No offense please.

Living with in-laws, some might say NO! Some might say ok (tapi dalam hati sebenarnya tak nak), some would say nak!nak! and some just don't bother. So which category I fall into? I should say, I'm in the second category. I don't say I don't mind living with in-laws. I do mind, a lot actually. When I told my friends that I'm going to stay with Johan's family after we get married, I received various feedbacks. Most of them have doubts of me living around in-laws.

Why? Because I'm kinda lepas balik kerja, duduk dalam bilik diam-diam, mandi, turun makan dan tidur pukul 10. Usually at home during weekends, I wake up at 9am. Kununnya nak balas dendam sebab weekdays asyik bangun awal pukul 5.30 pagi dan pergi kerja pukul 6.20 pagi. So di situ, tak cukup tidur. And at home, I'm a bit pampered. A bit, ok! Not always. Mom's a housewife like FOREVER in her life, so she tends to manage everything in the house. I did help occasionally, lipat baju, bersihkan kandang kucing-kucing saya yang gemok tu, sidai baju, cuci toilet, kemas bilik, only when I have the time. And I hardly cook. Mom prepares everything, I wanted to help sometimes but she just have this habit of prefers not having helpers around her. So that's why she does everything herself and I will only help her when she calls for, which is rare. So that explains, why friends find it a bit impossible for me to live with in-laws.

Kalau duduk bersama dengan in-laws, kena bangun awal. Tak mungkin kau nak tidur exceeding 7am, even on weekends. Kurang sopan nampaknya. Nanti apa pulak in-laws akan kata. Dan kena rajin ke dapur menolong apa yang patut. This should be no problem, I like to cook just malas je. And I guess, I have the same habit like my mom does. I prefer to operate alone, not having helpers. Rasanya akan jadi lagi kucar-kacir bila ade helpers. Bersama in-laws, apa yang kau selalu buat kat rumah kau dengan ibu bapa kau sendiri agak terbatas. Mungkin juga sangat terbatas. Kalau di rumah selalu berseluar pendek ke hulu ke hilir ke atas ke bawah, tapi bila dengan in-laws, takkan kau nak pakai macam tu? Lagi-lagi depan bapa mertua. Tapi saya rasa pakai macam tu depan ibu mertua lagi mengundang maut berbanding bapa mertua. Ye tak? Nak tak nak, kau kena beli stok seluar panjang dan t-shirt loose banyak-banyak. Tak pun pakai je baju kelawar. Jangan mimpi lagi kau nak beli baju dan seluar tidur cantik-cantik kat FOS. Kalau in-laws jenis tak kisah sebab mereka pun lebih kurang takpe, kalau tidak, awas! Tapi semoden-moden mana pun in-laws, mereka pasti tak mahu menantu mereka pakai boxer di rumah.

Lagi satu, takkan kau nak online je dan tengok tv sepanjang hari di rumah dan goyang kaki macam kau selalu buat kat rumah ibu bapa kau? Makan depan tv lagi baring-baring, gelak kuat-kuat tengok Senario. Kurang sopan. Nak tak nak, kau kena jadi perempuan melayu terakhir. Lepas tu bila keluar jalan-jalan tengok wayang dengan suami, in-laws akan pandang je. Kenapa? Sebab dah tiap-tiap minggu asal cuti Sabtu Ahad je korang keluar tak lekat kat rumah asyik makan sedap-sedap kat luar. Dah jadik kes menantu malas lak. Nanti kawan-kawan nak datang melawat atau saudara-mara kau nak menjenguk pengantin baru pun agak kurang selesa sebab in-laws ada. Nak buat party tupperware dengan member kamcing pun susah. Kalau bestfriend kau yang kepoh datang nanti dapat jelingan maut lagi sebab bising sangat bile berborak. Haih. Bila duduk dengan in-laws, terpaksa berlakon banyak. Hipokrit. To tell you the truth, I much prefer to stay alone with my husband after we get married. We are at free to do everything and anything we like, and anywhere too. Mom always tell me, "bila dah kawen nanti, duduk la berdua. Cari la rumah sendiri, sewa la rumah kecik dulu flat pun takpe, lagipun duduk berdua je. Kalau boleh jangan duduk dengan family. Menantu perempuan dengan menantu lelaki tak sama situasinya bila duduk dengan mertua".

Haih...macamana ni?